|Posted by Jeevan ॐ Mirthu Gupt on March 9, 2015 at 6:25 PM|
"The hope of a secure and livable world lies with the disciplined non-conformists who are dedicated to Justice, Peace and Brotherhood"
~ Martin Luther King Jr.
1. With Yourself
Patience with yourself is personal loyalty. It's respect - the foundation of every worthwhile relationship.
Being impatient with yourself is always self-defeating.
Worse, when you are not patient with yourself, social relationships don’t last.
People who are impatient with themselves make narrow-minded choices in social situations that appear to be selfish or arrogant, and alienate others. That's why 'things' don't work out.
Find patience for your heart and mind. If you don't give it to yourself, nobody will.
2. With Timing
Patience with timing is a sign of confidence in choices and faith in goals. Sure, it’s a disappointment and a drag to not have an answer, a meeting or a trip when you want it. Reality is: we all march to our own beat and we're not always in step with others. Sometimes this means waiting.
The surprise of extra time gives you space to prepare the response for an unwanted answer. Time always catches up with us.
Extra time means you can have unexpected insights to fine-tune content for the meeting.
Postponing a trip puts you somewhere else you need to be.
If you are perfect, LOL, then the time of ‘waiting’ will reveal an opportunity or responsibility you need to address or reposition before your answer, meeting or trip.
Whenever you are patient with delays, you will find something new that helps you succeed. Time brings opportunity.
3. With others
Patience with others has its priorities. These include dignity, self-respect and compassion. People who do this well are our heroes, like Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela and Mahatma Gandhi. These patient fighters used patience as personal power. So can you.
This is not about what you do; it's about how you do it.
Patience with other means acknowledging differences. No and yes are equally important for staying in tune with patience and your goals.
It is not ‘turning the other cheek” while someone hits you. You can be angry and be dignified.
If someone pushes your buttons and is disrespectful, sometimes it's best to just say, good-bye. The only person you can change is yourself. Stand tall, talk softly and use eye contact to make your point.
By : Jane Bernard